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I Suck at Being a School Mum

I started a new job yesterday and I just feel so overwhelmed. I suck at being a School Mum.

Everything from the commute, where to park, where I should go, meeting my colleagues – it’s all a bit too much.

The interview had gone well, orientation day was helpful and my welcome pack was packed with useful information but still, I found my first day to be very hard.

Because now I’m a School Mum. I have a heap of responsibilities, tasks and stresses to manage that I wasn’t really prepared for.

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Most importantly, I have an apprentice who’s relying on me to lead her and set her up for success and happiness in her new role. My daughter.
Child at school

Why I’m Struggling at being a School Mum

There’s no real training, it’s all on-the-job. A mix of trial and error, panic and joy.

My colleagues intimidate the hell out of me – they’re not floundering – well they don’t look like they are. One lovely mum exchanged numbers with me yesterday. We’re going to meet up outside of ‘work’ one day – a play-date for our apprentices.

I applied for her, not for me

I assessed her skills and decided she was ready. She sailed through her interview but maybe I failed the test?

But now my apprentice is relying on me and I don’t want to let her down. I want to lead her, inspire her and show her how to succeed.

But I’m just not qualified for this

Does School Mum-hood just come easy for some parents? Or are they sucking it up and hiding their fears better than me?

It’s only day two, it’s early days, but I just feel overwhelmed.

There are lunch boxes, uniforms, start and finish times, a list as long as my arm to cram into her school bag. And where the hell do I park at pick up time?

I’m retaining nothing and I need to ask the same simple questions over and over. I hope my boss doesn’t sack me. Am I on probation?

Suck it up, it’s about her, not you

And it is about her – because whatever I’m feeling now, she’s feeling ten times over. And she isn’t complaining (much). This is her time to be led by me and to flourish as her own little person.

So I’m embracing her attitude – with positivity, hope and an eagerness to learn.

We’ll celebrate small and big wins in our new careers, we’ll put our best foot forward, soak it all in, be attentive and not be shy to ask for help if we need it.

But I might just take a notepad to the next drop off – because there’s a lot to learn about being a School Mum.

Are you a School Mum for this first time this year too?

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  1. Kylie T
    / 7:52 am

    There is so much to do & take in; people do wonderfully. I work in teaching and see the inspirational role school mums/dads/carers ect. play each and everyday!

    • Mim
      / 9:37 am

      Ah thank you and that’s so lovely! x

  2. Yes, this!!! I’ve found this year to be such a culture shock. All those extra things to remember, the letters, texts, online learning journals and homework…agh!! However, 1.5 terms in I can say things do get better. I was so surprised (having been to school for over 12 years myself) how difficult it was to pick it all up. Don’ t worry, you will smash this! X

    • Mim
      / 9:05 am

      Oh that gives me so much hope – thanks lovely! It is such a culture shock, entirely different to day care was! Thank you x x

  3. / 12:19 pm

    OMG. I SO hear you. It’s really hard. I’m in second year of this and I’m only feeling mildly more organised about the whole thing. In fact I am editing a vlog about this very thing right now. I hope it gets easier soon! Ugh!

    • Mim
      / 12:58 pm

      It’s such a relief to hear that I’m not alone! Send me the link to your vlog when up :) x

  4. Erika @ Ever-changing Life of a Mum
    / 4:25 pm

    You’re doing great Mim, don’t doubt yourself. I thought it would take me about 6 weeks to settle in when my eldest daughter started primary school, but in all honesty I think it took me a good 6 months!! She’s just started high school this year so it’s all new again! Good luck and I’m sure you’ll find your own groove soon.

    • Mim
      / 4:46 pm

      Oh thank you :) You know I think that’s about right yes – it would take that long to settle truly into any new job. Aww I hope all is going well for your daughter at high school! x

  5. annatestadoro
    / 12:07 pm

    Oh no, don’t be too hard on yourself. It took me a couple of weeks last year to get used to my oldest starting school. You will get there! Ask as many questions as you can, talk to as many parents as you can, you will find a group that supports you and helps you out when you need it and vice versa!

    • Mim
      / 12:11 pm

      Thank you! I want to fast forward so I ‘know more’ but of course I also want to appreciate all the little moments she has each day too :) Yes you’re so right, I need a mums group at the school – who hopefully won’t think I’m clueless! x x

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