Back off, Grandma! Unwanted Advice from Old People
What is it with unwanted advice from old people?? Or at least some of them.
Why can’t they resist unleashing their pearls of ‘wisdom’ on you at every opportunity?
I should point out that no actual family members are included in this particular rant. They’re probably someone else’s Grandma though! Today I was reminded about the unwanted advice from old people you get when you have a baby.
Today, I was out with my baby son and encountered some older ladies. Grandma 1 came over to coo in his face.
He started to cry.
Grandma 2 came over and announced HE MUST BE HUNGRY.
I told them loudly that he’d just been fed and he was crying because sometimes he cries. I am far too polite to have said that Grandma 1 had scared the bejesus out of him and he was crying in fear.
At that point, Grandmas 3 and 4 scuttled over to see what was happened.
Grandma 3 shoved her head into the pram, retracted and then proudly announced to all that he was crying because HE WAS HUNGRY. Grandma 4 agreed and told me I should FEED HIM.
Despite wanting to bang G3 and G4’s blue-rinsed heads together, I calmly told them that he’d just fed and that, you know, sometimes babies cry for no real reason. What a revelation that must have been to them.
But seriously, why do the old women of the world feel the need to constantly educate me on how to address my baby’s needs?
“Is he hungry?” The clear winner.
“Is he cold?” Because I dared take my baby into the Freezer section at the supermarket.
“He needs a hat on!” On a very normal, 20 degree day.
They really can’t help but dispense their titbits at every chance they get. Which would be fine if it was legitimate advice and in some way helpful.
But it’s the undercurrent of ‘I know better than you’ that gets me. Just because you’re older, that does not make you any wiser than me about MY baby.
So my advice to the ‘Grandmas’ of the world is this – if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything. Simple as that.
In return, I will continue to ‘respect my elders’ and not tell you to shut up and remove your judgmental head from my baby’s pram.
That’s fair, isn’t it?
Turns out though, Grandma 1 isn’t even a Grandma. She told me on the way out that she never wanted any kids of her own. Grr.
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