32 to 40 – Raising a Girl and Forgetting Names

I’m one term in to being a school mum and I’m scared to say it out loud but I feel like I’m slowly getting the hang of things.

Well as long as you don’t count the numerous times I forgot to send her in with a gold coin, had a last minute panic the night before a dress up day or forgot every single name of the mums I’ve met. And their kids. FFS memory, sort it out.

But over all, we’re all starting to settle in the rhythm of school life.

Last night many of the school mums got together for a dinner out to get to know each other – it was awesome. I mean, I’m none the wiser on anyone’s names but it was great to socialise and get to know each other more.

The conversation turned to raising girls and it’s something that’s been on my mind a lot lately. Miss has changed so much just in the past few months of being at school. She’s loving school life, super eager to learn and impress but just a little bit sassier than she was before.

We’re already getting the whole “you’re not my best friend any more!” which I know is just a thing to say but I want to stop it. At five years old, isn’t it too early for that. One of the mums says the term “best friend” is banned at the school and I think that’s only a good thing.

I worry that girls (and boys) can be cruel with words and mean words last a lifetime. I panic about the possibility of her being bullied.

However I will say the school seems lovely, the kids seem lovely and the mums do too! I just wish I could remember their bloody names as it’s so embarrassing!

Some know that chemo affected my memory and they’re very forgiving of that. It’s just a bit embarrassing to have to start most conversations with “I had chemo so I can’t remember anything you said last time we met and, um, what’s your name again”.

It’s especially hard when my memory used to be so sharp for years – I beat myself up about the change.

I accept it in some ways but I do want to try and improve my memory – especially as I’m getting older and I imagine it will only get worse.

Is there anything you do to improve your memory?

(and if you have any tips on raising girls, please share!)


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  1. Lisa Ogrin
    / 2:07 pm

    Hi Mim. I found your blog while trying to find info on TNBC after being diagnosed in January. Your blog is the one hopeful and positive thing I found in my online searching. I am so happy you are doing well. I also have a five year old daughter. I wish you the best in raising yours. It seems to me you are doing a wonderful job. Thanks for sharing your story.

    • Mim
      / 2:14 pm

      Thank you Lisa and I’m so glad – I found it almost impossible to find anything hopeful too and I was intent on sharing my journey for the next woman searching for hope :) how are you doing? Feel free to contact me any time for a chat x x

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