5 Things I Wish I Had Been Told While Pregnant
5 Things I Wish I Had Been Told While Pregnant is a guest post by Flick Frankish at The Baby Vine
Forget the never-ending friendly advice about making sure you sleep now before the baby comes, because let’s be honest, sleeping in the final trimester is no easy feat. Also, the amount of times I was told to enjoy the peace and quiet while I could got to me. This baby was no accident, I was excited about welcoming her into my life and had enjoyed 28 years of ‘peace and quiet’ before falling pregnant – I knew what was coming.
There are however, some things I wish I HAD been told when I was pregnant, and here they are:
1. Leave the house as much as possible and appreciate it.
Seriously. Even if it is just a walk around the block, leaving your house will never be this easy again. For the forseeable future, your outings will come with baggage, and a lot of it. From nappies, dummies, toys, nappy bags, drink bottles and blankets, to snacks, extra layers, spare clothes and wipes, you will never leave empty-handed. A checklist runs through my head every time I reach for the door (and it has failed me on multiple occasions), and I never really appreciated how easy it was before.
2. Don’t set your expectations too high.
As a first-time parent I really wanted to perfect the role from the start. I had images of being the picture perfect mother with the perfect temperament in a perfectly clean house. Now, I laugh at all of this. It crumbled when I found myself in tears, while my daughter was in tears, as I desperately tried to get her to sleep (this was day 4!). I felt like such a failure and was so disappointed in myself. It hit really, really hard. Eventually, I realised the best thing I could do was move on. There was no point beating myself up over it – it wasn’t helping either of us.
3. Document EVERYTHING and back it up.
Get more phone storage space and take so, so, so many snaps – and don’t just keep the happy ones. I love looking back and having a laugh at old photos of Cassie, especially the funny ones. Videos are particularly important, you can’t comprehend how much this tiny person in front of you will change without being able to compare. How quickly you will forget (I know I did). It felt so silly in the moment, filming my newborn stretching, but it is one of my favourite videos looking back. Seriously, she was so tiny!
4. Following on from number 3, be in as many photos as possible.
I know, I know, you can’t imagine anything worse, but a friend gave me this advice and I can’t tell you how much I appreciated it. Trust me, suck it up and do it! Everytime I was with this friend, she made sure to take a snap of me and Cassie together (my husband was useless at this). Those photos now mean the world to me. I feel so blessed to have so many pictures of me and my little girl together and will treasure them for a long time (even though I hated having them taken!).
5. Join a mothers’ group.
I wouldn’t be here today without mine. You would probably find me curled up in a bush rocking from front to back, hoping never to be found. I am so glad I found such a wonderful bunch of women, and encourage you to do the same. It may seem like the last thing you need when you are busy taking care of a newborn and getting used to this new person in your life, but they are invaluable. Don’t question it, just do it.
Most of all, good luck! Parenting is fun, scary, challenging and basically every emotion under the sun. It is however, the most rewarding experience there is and I count my blessings everyday and feel so lucky to have such an incredible little person in my life.
About Flick and The Baby Vine
My name is Flick and I am first-time mum to my gorgeous (nearly) one-year-old daughter Cassie. I started The Baby Vine as a way to connect parents with a community of support and good-quality, researched articles. We run plenty of giveaways, love to have a good laugh, and love to share your story.
Thank you so much to Flick for contributing this great post! I couldn’t agree more with joining a mother’s group – mine was absolutely my life line and we’re great friends 3 years on.
What advice do you have for expectant mums?