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Birth Plan – Planning for the Birth of my Baby

Birth Plan

Well the time has finally arrived to write my birth plan!  I’m 35 week’s pregnant so I could possibly have done this already given it’s my second baby and I know what I want but I’m finally doing it now.

As long as my pregnancy remains ‘low-risk’ and no complications arise between now and the birth I have two possible options for the birth of my second baby – either a home birth at my house or a midwife-led birth in a birth centre within a hospital.  I’m really happy with either option but my preference is to be at home.

My Birth Plan - Pregnancy Birth Plan, Plan to Give Birth, Having a Baby
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My midwife has informed me that to have a home birth, I cannot go into labour before 37 weeks so Mini needs to stay put until then :)  If I did go into labour before 37 weeks I would likely have to go to the main Labour and Delivery ward at the hospital.  Miss M was born at 36 weeks and I went to the main hospital for that although I was pleased to still be midwife led and have a hypnobirth.

So here is my Birth Plan and if you’re also expecting, I hope it gives you an idea of the kind of things you might like to include in your own.  These are what I wish to happen, given the choice, but I am completely flexible so it isn’t set in stone.

My Birth Plan will include:

1.  Contact Details

Mine, my Emergency Contacts, Due Date and Midwife/Hospital Details.

Apart from this being useful information for my midwife, it will also be important in the event that I go into labour without having Mr M or my family around and perhaps need assistance from strangers or colleagues.

2.  Medical Condition Notes

Currently I have no medical conditions or allergies that I need to make any midwives or doctors aware of but I’d write any of those in here.

3.  Who will be Present

Hopefully Mr M will be there! There’s always a worry that it will be a quick birth and perhaps he’ll be at work and won’t get to me in time but all being well, he will be there as he was last time.

4.  Labour:

Midwife Support – I do not have many requests for my labour except to be left alone as much as possible.  Last time my midwives were so empowering, they left me to labour with my hypnobirthing techniques the majority of the time and popped back in the room occasionally to tell me how well I was doing and check the monitors.  That’s all I felt I needed but I knew if I needed them more, they would have stayed.

Music – I had grand plans of serene music playing and had a bunch of mp3s on my phone but didn’t feel the need to play them but I might get some ready just in case I do this time.  When I hypnobirthed with Miss M’s labour and delivery, I actually couldn’t hear anything whilst I was doing the breathing exercises so music would have been a waste and potentially a distraction.

Internal Examinations – I only had 1 internal examination at the end of my labour last time to confirm I was 10cms dilated, I just did not feel the necessity to have any more and will ask for the same this time – only if necessary.  I don’t feel the need to know every time I progress by 1cm!

Pain Relief – my preference is to limit pain relief to hypnobirthing, heat packs, water (birth pool), gas and air.  This is what I used last time (minus the water) and it was entirely manageable so I’m hoping for the same.  I’m flexible – I’m told frequently that each birth can be very different and I’m not aiming to be Super Woman – I’ll do what needs to be done for the baby and me.

Birthing Position – I want complete flexibility in this ideally – to labour and deliver in the water is my ideal but I’d like the option to walk around and change positions when I need to as well.

Delivery – Episiotomies – just the word makes me shudder – a small personal fear.  Last time I was seconds from having to have one as luckily Miss M finally popped out before the wrapper came off the scissors!  I want this labour and delivery to be as natural as possible again so hoping this will not be necessary and any tears are natural ones.

I would like to deliver as naturally as possible without the use of forceps, vacuums and other scary sounding devices.  I’m happy for Mr to watch the main event if he wants to as long as he doesn’t shout ‘What’s the head doing?!’ like he did last time.  Um, distracting!

Post Delivery – after Mini arrives (yay!), I want a full team of make-up artists and stylists to prepare me for my first photograph. Kidding!  After the birth, complications permitting, I would like the baby to be popped on to my chest as Miss M was and to breastfeed when it is ready to.

Mr M might like to cut the umbilical cord again after it stops pulsating – it’s his choice on the day and I expect he will.

5.  How I want to Deliver

I am aiming for a natural labour and delivery again and ideally, a water birth.  Unfortunately I couldn’t have a water birth with Miss M as she was preterm and they needed to monitor her at all times.  I’m really hoping this won’t be the case this time and I can labour and give birth in the water.

In the event I need to have a c section, I would like for Mr M to be with me at all times and for me to be conscious through it, if these options are possible.  Again I would like the baby to be popped on to me straight away, if possible, and to breastfeed.

6.  The Baby!

I want the baby to be with me at all times unless absolutely necessary to take me or it away.  If I need any surgery etc, I want the baby to stay with Mr M.  This is something I will not compromise on without very good reason.  So any cleaning up, vaccinations, exams on the baby etc should be done in my presence and we would like to give the baby it’s first bath when the time comes.

7.  Post Partum

If I’m not already a home, I want to go home as soon as reasonably possible – the same day would be great!  Obviously if either the baby or I have any medical needs to stay at the hospital we will but I’ll be so excited to get home, get comfortable and settled and start our new life as a family of 4!

If I do need to stay in hospital, I’d like the baby with me at all times and for Mr M to be able to stay with us as much as possible.  I’d also like to breastfeed on demand.

And I’d like a room of my own with a sea view ha ha!

Well I think that’s the main things covered!  Have I missed anything?

Of course I am completely flexible with how things go on the day and this plan is not set in stone.  My last birth experience gave me the chance to see that some things are just completely out of your control and I need to be flexible to go with whatever the baby and I need on the day.  As long as my baby is happy and healthy when it ventures into the world, I’ll be a happy mummy and will do whatever I need to do to make that happen. :)

How did your birth go?  Did you write a birth plan or go with the flow?  Was there anything you would have done differently?

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  1. HonestMum
    / 6:51 pm

    What a fab plan, so exciting! Thanks for linking up x

    • / 3:37 pm

      Thanks lovely – not long now!! :)

  2. Debs @ Super Busy Mum
    / 11:37 am

    Great birth plan! Good luck with it! x

    • / 3:36 pm

      Thanks so much Debs! :)

  3. Katie
    / 10:20 pm

    Your very organised and this is a really detailed plan. I’ve had four pregnancies (five births) and never once wrote a birth plan! Thanks for linking up with #SundayStars xxx

    • / 7:01 pm

      Ha ha yes, I’m definitely flexible too – the baby will dictate how it all goes! :)

  4. Hannah Mums' Days
    / 8:15 pm

    Oh gosh! It’s all so soon :) your birth plan sounds awesome, fingers crossed it all works out well for you! Your first birth was brill and I just love how well all the Hypnobirthing worked for you – I’ll definitely be picking your brain about it if I have another!! Thanks for linking up to #Thelist xx

    • / 7:00 pm

      It’s soooo soon ha ha argh! Thanks lady and I’m MORE than happy to give you all my tips when you go for another! :)

  5. Eleanor (The Bristol Parent)
    / 1:59 pm

    That’s one heck of a plan, great example for others, especially those who may be first timers! #theList

    • / 3:31 pm

      Ha ha thanks Eleanor! :)

  6. Sam
    / 1:28 pm

    That sounds like a great plan already. I think most of a birth plan is about flexibility as so much can change and so quickly.
    I wrote birth plans for 2 of my 3 pregnancies and both went out the window. The first one was ruined by broken birthing pools and low staff levels. The second fell at the first when I delivered at home in an hour!
    Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and I hope you get the birth you wanted

    • / 9:30 pm

      Thanks so much! I hope so too but will remain flexible :)

  7. Jenna
    / 8:30 pm

    Eek, so exciting – I hope everything goes to plan as much as possible.

    This is all very similar to how my birth plan would be with my next baby.

    Jenna at Tinyfootsteps xx

    • / 9:30 pm

      Thank you so much! :)

  8. Laura @ Life with Baby Kicks
    / 4:50 pm

    I MUST do mine, though I think a lot will be taken out of my hands with the rising blood pressure, sig! Not long to go yikes! X

    • / 9:29 pm

      Ahh how is your blood pressure now? I hope you’re feeling well! :)

  9. Tin Box Traveller
    / 8:21 pm

    Great plan! I still haven’t written mine down, but this has reminded me how important it is to do so. I was thinking I wouldn’t bother second time round as a lot of what I wanted with Tin Box Tot wasn’t possible. I was rigged up to so many monitors and drips that I found it difficult to move and I ended up being induced, having forceps, vacuum and an episiotomy – none of which I had even thought about (not that you request those things!!).

    However, there are so many things that you can still plan for. For instance, I managed to get by with gas and air for pain relief, which I want to try again. Like you, I am flexible, but it would be nice to try a water birth and keep it as natural as possible this time.

    Oh, and I’m with you on the sea view! ;) #WeekendBlogHop

    • / 9:28 pm

      Thanks lovely! You did AMAZINGLY to go through so much only on gas and air – you are super woman! I hope you get the birth you want this time around :)

  10. Catherine
    / 9:38 am

    Good luck with the birth. I think it’s always good to have a plan although unfortunately due to circumstances beyond my control mine went out the window!

    • / 9:28 pm

      Thanks so much! Ah yes, you can plan so much but then it’s down to other factors sometimes! :)

  11. Julia @ rainbeaubelle
    / 9:43 pm

    You have all bases covered here well done! Far more organised than I was both times! I delivered in water with both mine and it was so good and really helped with the pain like nothing else. I was only in the water for about five mins the second time!! I think it’s best to be open as you never know what interventions you will need (just in case) but hopefully these can be kept to a minimum (or mamamim!!) xx

    • / 9:26 pm

      Thanks Julia! I’m only organised in my head, not in real life yet :) Hee hee ‘mamamim’! :)

  12. Claire @ life love and dirty dishes
    / 12:11 pm

    Good luck. I hope you get the birth you want. My second birth was amazing. I sound crazy but I would do it again for the high it gave me (and the gas and air!) Probably helped by the fact that it was quite quick.

    • / 9:25 pm

      Thank you so much! :)

  13. Mumma McD
    / 9:56 am

    How exciting, not long now!!!

    This looks like a great plan – still flexible but very clear on what outcomes you’d prefer.

    Have you thought about what you want to do with your placenta?? I only ask because I kept mine and had it turned into capsules, so I included that in my birth plan so that no one threw it in the bin! I also stipulated that I wanted delayed cord clamping so that they didn’t just rush in with the scissors.

    Good luck Mim! xx

    • / 9:24 pm

      I’m still a bit unsure, I did want to do capsules with Miss M but it was all so rushed and 3 weeks early that I didn’t get a chance to organise!

  14. Mama, My Kid Doesn't Poop Rainbows
    / 9:53 am

    It’s good to have a plan…but also to be flexible.
    My planned natural, no intervention water birth turned into induced 72 hour drug-fest. Regardless of what happens you wont really care by the time they put that bundle in your arms. Best of luck!


    • / 9:23 pm

      Oh definitely – you can only plan so much :)

  15. Luisa @ Looking for mama me
    / 11:51 pm

    I couldnt imagine giving birth at home. I was walking all around the delivery room, the whole time leaking blood everywhere. It looks like a crime scene lol I wouldnt want to clean that up! That said, I did have a midwife led birth, no doctors except to stitch me up after (tear was too severe for a midwife to stitch) and my hubby and my midwife were the only ones in the room. I didn’t want doctors or drugs and I’m so glad I had neither! Although I couldnt have had drugs even if I wanted.. she was out in 2 and a half hours!

    Good luck, I hope bub hangs in there for another 2 weeks so you can chose how you’d like to do it :)

    • / 9:22 pm

      Ha ha I want someone to clean up after wards of course :)

  16. / 11:23 am

    Thank you for sharing your birth plan with us :) It sounds like a fabulous plan to me :) lots of it, I’d quite like for myself! I am 32 weeks pregnant, I’ve not written my birth plan yet but starting to think about it. I didn’t really know what to include so your article has given me some really good guidelines and inspiration. Thank you for that :) Sending you lots of positive vibes in the hope that everything goes according to plan for you and little one :) xx

    • / 9:21 pm

      Oh thanks Marion and good luck to you! :)

  17. Ickle Pickle
    / 8:26 pm

    Good Luck! Mummy was never asked for any of her birth plans – she has had four of us! She did have a hypnobirth with me, and it was amazing for us both. I hope all goes to plan for you x

    • / 9:22 pm

      Aww yay, another hypnobirth fan! :)

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