The older I get, the more I’m tested with how hard life can sometimes be. How unfair at times. Even the most optimistic of people can find it difficult to find ways on how to feel more positive. I know I certainly do – and I count myself as being a very positive person.
There are events that have happened in my life that have truly made be feel more challenged that I could ever imagine. A Breast Cancer diagnosis being one of them. Or the early days (months) of motherhood when my babies just Would Not Sleep.
Sometimes, you can just have a bad day for no apparent reason.
Whatever your reason, I’ve found some tips on how to feel more positive that I hope will work for you too.
How to feel more Positive
1. Think happy thoughts
I love to daydream about the future. I come up with scenarios in my head of events that may never even happen, but the possibility of them fills me with hope and positivity any way.
Some of them may involve Jamie Fraser from Outlander ;)
Allow your mind to wander to happy places and if it won’t, make it do so! Remember a time, or a place, where you felt really, truly happy in the past.
We all have stored memories of times in our lives when we have been happier. Perhaps a special milestone, winning an award, the birth of a child, your wedding day. Spend some time thinking about what made you happy on those occasions and how positive you felt then. Sometimes, thinking of times when we have been happy in the past gives us hope that we can feel that way again.
2. Surround yourself with positive people
When I’m feeling less than my best, I find that being in the company of optimistic friends and family really helps. Whether they help take your mind off your mood or problem or have some great advice, it’s all good.
It doesn’t even need to be a real person though! Do you love watching a particular TV show because one of the characters has an uplifting personality or is a happy role model? Or can you get lost in a book filled with positive influences?
I find that genuine positivity breeds more positivity. And we absorb it.
You know how you can be really affected by someone else’s bad mood to the point where you feel grumpy and negative too? Well it’s the same for positive people – they have a wonderful way of bringing out the optimism in you too.
3. Make some happy plans
During my Breast Cancer diagnosis and treatment, planning ahead scared me so much at times. You can imagine why. If I’m honest, it still does.
However, I have found that daring to plan ahead fills me with hope and optimism. In turn, I then start to look forward to what is coming next in my life instead of dreading what might happen. It gives me back some control.
So think about the things you love to do, or the people you love to see, and get planning! When I plan my week, I always factor in some fun stuff too. I always then feel like I have something to look forward to and it keeps me motivated to keep going.
Whether you’re a naturally positive person or not, we all have moments when we need a ‘pick me up’. Rather than waiting for that moment to arrive, I believe in finding ways to get there quicker and get back on track.
I hope my experience helps you too.
What do you to feel more positive?