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5 New Parent Pet Peeves

5 New Parent Pet Peeves

Motherhood has brought with it many blessings for me – babies of course, more purpose in my life and a new found obsession love for Peppa Pig. What I didn’t expect were the unwanted events, advice and situations that are thrust upon new parents whether they like it or not.  My new parent pet peeves.

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I’ve been a mother for over 2 years now and I finally feel in a position where I know the kind of mother I want to be.  I don’t know exactly how to be that kind of mother yet and I’m still finding my feet but I’m confident enough to know what I want for myself and my family and what I need to do to achieve it.

Rewind 2 years and it was a different story.  I had no idea about kids, I’d never babysat or had younger siblings or family members.  I knew nothing.

When Miss M was born I, as most mothers do, developed an immediate maternal instinct.  A gut feeling about what the right thing for my baby was.  I didn’t always get it right but I tried to trust my gut as much as possible and had a wonderful support network of family, friends and my wonderful mothers and babies group to help me through.

I didn’t quite realise that motherhood was the huge challenge that it was and still is and along the way there have been occasions where I could have done without certain issues getting in my way of being a good mum.  Those little day-to-day things that could have made my life easier!

Not many of these things can be changed – you have to learn to live with them and ignore them but nonetheless, here is are my parenting pet hates:

1.  Unsolicited Advice

I’ve written a few posts on the ridiculous pregnancy and parenting advice I was given here and another on unwanted advice from old people!  What’s most annoying is that it isn’t advice I even asked for – in fact, I tried to proactively dis-courage it but some people cannot help but pass on their ‘words of wisdom’.

I’m all for learning from others, especially friends and family, but advice from strangers about how I am parenting my child is generally never welcomed.  Especially the constant “Is she hungry?”, “Is he cold?” etc when my babies so much as gurgled.  New mums are paranoid enough about if they’re doing the right thing.  How about some positive reinforcement rather than adding to the fear?!

2.  Sanctimummies

And Sanctidaddies come to think about it.  Those parents who think they know everything about everything to do with children.  Especially your child apparently.  How do they know everything?  Because they just DO!  They are so convinced that their way of parenting is the only way that everyone else should parent too and they are relentless in their mission to convert you to their way of thinking.  Step away from me, Sanctimummy, I’m ready for you this time around!  Not all mums and dads are alike and nor should they be and I’ve written about some of the kinds of mums I’ve encountered in my Mumcyclopedia.

3.  Judgement

I’m going to hold my hands up here and confess that for a very long time, I judged other parents often unfairly.  I’ve certainly tried to learn from my mistakes in doing so since I’ve been on the receiving end of other’s judgement a few times since becoming a parent myself.

It’s all too easy to draw the wrong conclusion about situations such as a child having a ‘tantrum’ in the supermarket or a friend not wanting to have children of their own.  We have no idea why people make the choices they make about their family and we have no right to know why or to judge them for it.

4.  No more ‘me time’

This is a tough one – because of course, I CHOSE to have my beautiful children and I would love to spend every waking hour with them.

However it might be nice, once in a while, to go to the toilet without a little hand knocking on the door to announce they’re “coming in too”.  Or to enjoy cooking a leisurely meal in the kitchen without worrying about throwing a pan of hot water over a tottering toddler under my feet.

I used to enjoy a glass of wine when I cooked dinner sometimes.  Those days are definitely gone for now!

5.  Topsy and Tim

Yes, Topsy and Tim.  No, not the retro book heroes of your childhood.  I mean the ones on CBeebies now.  Have you watched it?  If you have not then, I envy you.  If you have, you’ll surely feel my pain.

These two 8 year olds masquerading as toddlers drive me to distraction.  Which is so very upsetting since I loved the stories when I was little.

I have so many questions for that TV family.  Why are you trying to convince us that these children are 4 years old when they’re almost as tall as their parents?  Why have you got carpet in your kitchen?  Why have you got carpet in your NEW KITCHEN?  Yes, they moved house – that was dragged out over a fair few episodes.  Why are T&T’s best friends two middle aged men from up the road?

What does ‘Mummy’ do all day?  She isn’t cleaning that grubby wallpaper.  Perhaps she’s vacuuming the kitchen?  Apologies, I’m judging again.

Miss M ADORES the show.  Truly loves it.  Sings the theme song day in, day out.  When I ask her how she wants her hair in the morning she says “like Tim’s!” (don’t ask, makes no sense).

I need to stop there, I think I could rant for a good few days about Topsy and Tim.

What are your pet hates as a parent?  What annoyed you when you became a new mum or dad?  What would make your life easier?

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  1. / 8:54 pm

    Topsy and Tim is awful, I feel like I have a high tolerance for kids TV but I cannot abide T & T! The kids are too old for the roles, mum is relentlessly chipper, there’s zero chemistry between her and dad. I just get a creepy vibe from it- like they are all in that house against their will!
    Loss of me time is something I have just come to accept. I work 2 days a week and look after my 3 year old 5 days a week while my husband works. We don’t have any family who can help us out with childcare. I genuinely cannot remember the last time I was alone. I try not to think about it too much, I’d crack up otherwise! I’ve just accepted this is how life is for now.
    One that really, really grates me is “just you wait until yours is….” Parents who just revel in telling you all the tough stuff that you’ll have in store when your child gets older and sneer at any difficulties that you may be having now as it’s a drop in the ocean compared to what’s coming.

    • / 9:10 pm

      I hate that toooo! If is really IS harder when they’re older then they should at least have the good grace to keep it to themselves after listening to us say we think it’s hard now! :)

  2. Hannah mum's days
    / 7:13 am

    You know what annoyed me? Not getting my full 8 hours!! But I also didn’t enjoy the above either ;) Thanks for linking up to #TheList xx

    • / 1:53 pm

      Ooh I can’t remember the last time I had a full, uninterrupted 8 hours – oh what I’d give for that! x

  3. Caroline
    / 8:50 pm

    I nodded along throughout, my kids LOVE Topsy and Tim, I think there are worst shows on for them, but it is really annoying, my biggest bug bear with kids TV is In The Night Garden x

    • / 8:59 pm

      Ha ha I weirdly love that show – I think it actually helps me get to sleep although 6pm is probably a bit early for my bedtime :) x

  4. Our Cherry Tree
    / 6:06 pm

    Hahaha! My daughter asks me to do her hair ‘like Tim’s’ too! I’m glad she’s not the only one, although I wish you’d worked out what they mean cause I have no idea. I actively try and avoid watching it properly so that it doesn’t drive me crazy, but I do like the theme tune, and at least it is better than Bing. #TheList

    • / 6:10 pm

      Ha ha isn’t it funny! She’s started asking for it like Tony Welch now too – so odd!! Agree about Bing too! :)

  5. Catherine @pushingthemoon
    / 11:24 pm

    Argh, bloody Topsy & Tim – Like you, I have so many questions about that show (especially the 8 year old masquerading as 4 years old! ) but my BIGGEST pet peeve is BING! That rabbit did so much damage to my son’s potty training that I banned it until I was confident he was fully trained. And don’t even get me started on Flop as I could go on forever! xxx #TheList

    • / 6:12 pm

      Oh Bing is an oddball too – I don’t get it at all!!! x

  6. Lauren (The Helpful Hiker)
    / 6:01 pm

    Love this list! I’m so glad it’s not just me who finds Topsy and Tim unbearable. Baby was having a rare few minutes of sitting still so thought I’d put some kid’s TV on for him. I lasted about 2 mins before I had to turn it off they annoyed me so much! Guess I should get used to it, I’ve got a good few years of this rubbish ahead of me! #TheList

    • / 8:15 pm

      Ha ha yes, we admitted defeat but then had to watch the same few shows on repeat for WEEKS. Luckily she’s moved on to Peter Rabbit for a bit instead :)

  7. Claire at Tin Box Traveller
    / 4:46 am

    Ha! Topsy and Tim is so far from real life it’s untrue! My pet peeve is the toddler/baby waking relay that happens some nights. You settle one, climb back into bed and the other one goes off. It’s a conspiracy! ;) #thelist

    • / 8:14 pm

      Argh we’re getting that too – they could at least have the good grace to wake up at the same time. Or just to STAY ASLEEP! :) x

  8. Mummy & Bean
    / 8:22 pm

    Completely with you on Topsy and Tim arghhhhh! What is that about, it’s sickly sweet, trite and completely unrealistic. As for the other things on your list, the hardest thing for me to adjust to was a severe lack of me time. Linking up with #TheList

    • / 10:41 pm

      Oh what I’d give to have a little more me time :) Well, I wouldn’t give the kids away but a little more would be nice :)

  9. Kim (sisterkin)
    / 2:54 am

    Very good and so true. Topsy and Tim’s mum is my role model. As a twin mum myself I wonder how come she is always up and dressed before them? And why does she never get cross – like ever! Twin-bloody-tastic!!

    • / 10:40 pm

      Ha ha ha she has it all together – except the cleaning – she does not keep a clean house! :)

  10. Fiona
    / 12:03 am

    There is nothing more infuriating than unsolicited advice, especially from total strangers. It’s the absolute worst thing about being a parent x

    • / 7:18 pm

      So so true – drives me potty! x

  11. / 12:04 pm

    I am 13 weeks pregnant with our first. I think about our lives are going to change a lot. I am super excited and I adore our baby so much already, but I still worry about what kind of parent I am going to be. I hope I can cope with no me time..
    x M.

    • / 12:34 pm

      Oh congrats! You have so much to look forward to – and despite my peeves, I wouldn’t change a single thing! :)

  12. Laura Walker
    / 9:24 am

    I could go on all day about kids TV. What is it that Bing bunny lives with where are his mum and dad? Why does everything have to be on a giant hill in Peppa Pig?

    As soon as my son was born I was asked if I was having another! Argh it took me 3 years to get pregnant with him they say it like you just pop babies out

    • / 9:50 am

      Ha ha so true! And I’m highly insulted that I share my name with a giant purple MALE rabbit in Kate and Mim-Mim!

  13. Jenni - Odd Socks and Lollipops
    / 5:38 pm

    So funny and so true.
    You see the only topsy and tim i know is the programme and I am not a massive fan and Boo hasn’t been fussed so I am going to stick to the twirlywoos as T and T is too annoying, was going to give the books a miss, but if they are better than the show I might give them a go

    • / 6:05 pm

      Definitely try the books – it’s been years since I read them but they can’t be as annoying as the show! :)

  14. Haidee@Maybe Baby Brothers
    / 9:14 am

    Yep, gotta love the know it all who isn’t afraid to tell you what you are doing wrong and what THEY would do better. Sigh. #TheList

    • / 10:43 am

      They’re everywhere aren’t they – no getting away from them! :)

  15. Mummy Muddler
    / 7:18 am

    I’ll avoid Topsy and Tim- thanks for the tip!
    I would have to say leaving the house is one of the things that gets me most agitated. It takes me so long to get everything I need ready and get the kids dressed, changed, shoes on, etc etc. I always end up flustered and stressed and always forget something. A;ways reminds of of that Michael McIntyre routine!

    • / 10:44 am

      Ha ha do your best to! Oh I loved that Michael McIntyre show, so so funny and oh so accurate! x

  16. Zoe Meunier
    / 1:42 pm

    Oh the old ‘are you sure s/he’s warm enough?’ one gets me all the time! So tempting to respond, ‘No probably not, I like my child to be a bit chilled.’

    • / 2:09 pm

      Me too – I find it so hard to keep the sarcastic replies to myself! :)

  17. Lizzie Roles
    / 3:03 pm

    I’m nodding along to all of these! I too used to judge the parents with the screaming child in the supermarket, now I give a sympathetic nod, or even better look away & leave them to it. I really feel that all of the advice & judgements aimed at me after I had my first child really took the joy out of it for me, it’s a real shame isn’t it? As for Topsy & Tim’s Mum, I’m not one to judge…but… one generally has a shower after going for a run. There I said it! :) xo

    • / 6:56 pm

      It is a shame – people can’t help but to judge I feel sometimes and it’s really sad. Hee hee how funny about T&T’s mum! :)

  18. Elena
    / 2:15 pm

    Unsolicited advice is the worse, I have always hated random people coming up with advice that frankly I didn’t need or didn’t ask for!

    • / 2:18 pm

      A some of them really can’t help themselves! :)

  19. Alexandra @dontcallmestepmummy
    / 8:15 am

    So true, I can’t remember the last time I went to the loo during daylight hours that didn’t involve a toddler sat on each knee. Crazy. I love the term Santimummy haha #TheList

    • / 8:17 am

      It’s brilliant isn’t it – so accurate! x

  20. Maria @ Suburban Mum
    / 4:10 pm

    Parents who think they know everything. I have a friend whose a bit like that. Drives the rest of us up the wall. Her way is always the best and only way. Sometimes its like she’s forgotten that the rest us also have children too and might know a thing or two!

    Don’t get me started on T&T either – E loves that show but they are blatantly much older than 4!!!#BrillBlogPosts

    • / 5:01 pm

      Oh I’m so pleased it isn’t just me ha ha! x x

  21. Katie Heels and Hooves
    / 3:57 pm

    Topsy and Tim sound a bit creepy – I’ll try (but probably fail) to avoid them! ;-) And I’m with you on unsolicited advice. It has come thick and fast during pregnancy and I’m sure it will continue. I’ll try to smile and nod! xx

    • / 5:02 pm

      Do your best to avoid them – such a shame it’s so annoying ha ha! x x

  22. Jennifer
    / 7:44 pm

    My friend’s children love Topsy and Tim but I just can’t watch it, it really grates on me! It’s nice to see a house that is realistic and ‘lived in’ but I think that they go a little bit too far! Loss of ‘me time’ is a big one for me, I really need time to myself just to think in my head, and although I do get time to myself in the evenings, during the day I really struggle sometimes when I can’t concentrate due to all the squeaky voices around me!

    • / 7:48 pm

      Ha yes, I’m all for a ‘lived in’ house too – although really I shouldn’t complain as they make me feel like at least my house is tidier than theirs :)

  23. eleanor
    / 3:34 pm

    Totes with you on Topsy and Tim. Are they really twins? Are they acting or do they think that is their life? Why is their mum DI Summerhayes from Eastenders?

    • / 3:40 pm

      Ha haa there are so many unanswered questions – it almost keeps me up at night! x

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