My 5 Parenting Epiphanies

My 5 Parenting Epiphanies

By Motherhood: The Real Deal

Welcome to Week 1 of #MyFiveThings!  This is a guest posting series I co-host with the very lovely Talya at Motherhood the Real Deal.  Each week we will alternate between our blogs, featured an original guest post from another parent with 5 things they want to talk about on the theme of Parenting.

We’re kicking off the week with a post each and this is a fabulous one from Talya on her 5 Parenting Epiphanies! Over to you, Talya:

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My 5 Parenting Epiphanies

1. You can not control this!

Being a parent is absurdly crazy. Everything is everywhere – your thoughts, the toys, your child’s behaviour, the laundry, last night’s dinner. It’s chaos – battle against it, you’ll go crazy, accept the crazy, and you’ll probably pass through more or less mentally intact.

2. Everybody is going through the same crazy

No this is not just some weird, crazy, complex scenario you are going through – it’s just as crazy, frustratingly comical and down right weird for most other parents too (if they’re really honest about it).

3. *Most* toys are a waste of space

You will spend the first year or so accumulating toys, and the years thereafter getting rid of them. You know now, first hand, that the toy industry is one big pile of BS, and the less dollars you give over to them, the better.

4. Your life will never be the same again

Less sleep, more grey hairs, intense stress, incredible moments of delight. Do they good times outweigh the bad times? Maybe. But one thing’s for sure, you know absolutely 100% that your life will never be the same again.

5. Everybody came from someone’s tummy once

Yes what a weird one – the people you hate, the people you find creepy, the old woman hobbling down your road everyday, even you. We all were babies once, and lived inside somebody before that. Holy smokes.

What about you – have you had any parenting epiphanies you’d like to add?

My post is the 5 Things I Hate About CBeebies and you can read it here.

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  1. 19th November 2015 / 8:16 pm

    Oh, I totally agree with all of those especially the toys! We are now at the doll stage and for every one you buy they make the exact same one 10 times over in different outfits, themes, new ones for new films (grrr monster high!) Loved this post #KCACOLS

    • 20th November 2015 / 11:26 am

      I have that to look forward to argh! x

  2. everything mummy
    19th November 2015 / 9:09 am

    Haha love the one about toys they really are such a waste of money I love having a clear out and binning a load it’s so satisfying! Thanks for linking up to #sundaystars x

  3. 19th November 2015 / 2:57 am

    Spot on for me! Especially number 1. Before parenthood, I was a clean freak. Hated clutter and wanted everything organised. With an 10 month old this is virtually an impossible task. Its much more sane to embrace the mess and insanity – its somewhat more calming than trying to do the housework whilst baby is playing! All the time in the world for a clean and tidy home, not enough time is your baby a baby!
    Great read :) #KCAKOLS

  4. 18th November 2015 / 10:11 am

    I love these! I agree with every single one of them, particularly the point that you cant control this. Best parenting realisation ever. The thought that everyone came from someones tummy is an odd one to think about, but kind of mind blowing at the same time :-) #KCACOLS

  5. 17th November 2015 / 6:23 am

    These are absolutely spot on! Number 4 is so very very true! Once you become a parent nothing is ever the same!!! I would also say going with what your gut tells you when it comes to your child is one of my epiphanies too! #KCACOLS

  6. 17th November 2015 / 5:37 am

    Crazy, yep! I can’t disagree with that! My epiphanies include realising that I can function on no sleep and I can get washed and dressed in one episode of Postman Pat :) #KCACOLS

  7. 17th November 2015 / 2:03 am

    Number 1 was a big shock to me when we had our first son. As for number 2 I still have to remind myself of this now. It seems sometimes that everyone else have the perfect family and kids whilst I’m just about holding it together and the kids are little nightmares. #fartglitter

  8. 16th November 2015 / 11:11 pm

    Oooh, good ones! Especially the toys. We’re trying to have a clear out- so much junk! I think mine was ‘Sometimes babies just scream’. That one saved my sanity during the first year. Inexplicable screaming sucks.

    Thanks for linking up to #fartglitter x

  9. 16th November 2015 / 11:06 pm

    Love this. Number 3 rings true with me. I am making my boys get rid of loads of the never played with toys in time for the new set of never to be played with toys that will inevitably arrive at Christmas!

  10. 16th November 2015 / 1:08 pm

    Hi Mim; hadn’t quite thought of #5, but off to the shops this arvo and tipping I will be thinking it the whole way around the supermarket…eeeewww….!! But #4 is oh so very true..I think it a lot…in many different contexts; the good, the wonderful and the…well..challenging times! Cheers #TheList

    • 16th November 2015 / 1:16 pm

      Ha ha it’s so funny to think about – and wrong! x

  11. 16th November 2015 / 7:08 am

    So true! I hear you about the toys… We have far too many! #KCACOLS

    • 16th November 2015 / 11:47 am

      And Christmas is coming up argh! x

  12. 16th November 2015 / 6:47 am

    Brilliant. I definitely think once you learnt to accept the crazy everything gets a lot easier. I tried to control it in the morning and just ended up feeling like a bit of a failure! Also so true about the toys -we haven’t really invested in many as the ones we do have are about as fascinating to Taylor as a shoelace – so she’s had the shoelace for most of the year ha! This is starting to change now that she’s approaching one and starting to play on her own, but I’m so glad we didn’t waste a lot of money on them! #KCACOLS

    • 16th November 2015 / 11:48 am

      Ha ha the simplest of things sometimes keep them the most occupied! x

  13. 16th November 2015 / 4:01 am

    I totally agree with these, it helps us feel grounded to remember! Thanks for linking up to #KCACOLS, hope to see you next week.

    • 16th November 2015 / 11:48 am

      Thanks Jenny! x

  14. 16th November 2015 / 2:01 am

    You have hit the nail on the head here! Particularly the ‘control’ one, this was something I thought I would find really difficult but prepped myself for it as I had been given this advice and most days I manage to follow BookBairn’s lead. Until she refuses to nap! #sundaystars

    • 16th November 2015 / 11:49 am

      She really has! Ah a missed nap can lead to all sorts of ‘fun’! x

  15. 16th November 2015 / 1:36 am

    These are so true! Love the new 5 things series idea too – will definitely be in touch about submitting!x #sundaystars

    • 16th November 2015 / 11:50 am

      Hurray thanks lovely!! x

  16. Lucy @ bottlefor2
    16th November 2015 / 12:10 am

    Number 5. I know it to be true but it is so hard to remember. Everyone is born innocent. It breaks my heart about what can happen to people after that. When you see some of the atrocities around the world; the situation in Syria, terrorism in France… Whatever happens to those beautiful, innocent babies. I’m obviously having a ‘deep feeling day’. #kcacols

    • 16th November 2015 / 11:50 am

      It’s so true isn’t it – I know exactly how you feel x

  17. 15th November 2015 / 11:11 pm

    Great list..all very true. Number 1 and 4 happened very early in my life as a mum..number5 just blew my mind haha.xx #KCACOLS

    • 15th November 2015 / 11:23 pm

      It’s an awesome list isn’t it! No 5 is v funny :) x

  18. 15th November 2015 / 10:59 pm

    Very true. My epiphany was when I realised my life would never be my own again, my son now came before everything I wanted to do! And oh the toys! So many toys and all babies want to do is put things in their mouths! #sundaystars

    • 15th November 2015 / 11:24 pm

      What is it with putting everything in their mouths ha ha! x

    • 15th November 2015 / 11:25 pm

      It’s awesome isn’t it! :)

  19. 15th November 2015 / 7:27 pm

    Great post!! Ugh toys, the bane of every mums life ???? I’ve never really thought about everyone coming from someone’s tummy before. Did give me a little giggle X #sundaystars

    • 15th November 2015 / 11:25 pm

      Ha me too – it’s hard to imagine with some!! x

  20. 15th November 2015 / 7:22 pm

    I love this so much. Just what I wanted to read this morning. It’s so true. I definitely need to listen to the control part a lot more and most toys really are a waste of space. xx #sundaystars

    • 15th November 2015 / 11:26 pm

      I love Tayla’s post too – glad it made you laugh! x

  21. 15th November 2015 / 7:19 pm

    This list is perfect! Especially No. 1. I spent way too long trying to control everything and it caused major anxiety, now I’ve learnt to let things go and always tell myself stressful moments will always pass so why get het up about them right? :)

    Thanks for sharing #sundaystars

    • 15th November 2015 / 11:27 pm

      Ooh that’s the best attitude! It’s so hard sometimes in the beginning isn’t it x

  22. 15th November 2015 / 7:04 pm

    What s wonderful post. Those 5 points are so brilliant Having twins, very premature ones at that, is a challenge in itself. The challenges don’t get easier, just change as they get older. #KCACOLS

    • 15th November 2015 / 11:28 pm

      Oh I can only imagine! x

  23. 15th November 2015 / 6:09 pm

    Aaargh to the toys! We had a clear out yesterday but it was basically a moving toys around exercise… Top tip… Get the black sacks out when the kids are in bed! Don’t expect them to help or agree in binning old toot! X #sundaystars

    • 15th November 2015 / 6:33 pm

      Ha ha I have to do that too – but she remembers what’s missing even months later argh! x

  24. 15th November 2015 / 10:13 am

    So agree on the toys one! Marianna’s favourite ‘toys’ at the moment are bubble wrap envelopes and empty drink bottles… #KCACOLS

    • 15th November 2015 / 12:10 pm

      Ha they’re awesome toys – economical too! x

  25. 15th November 2015 / 9:22 am

    I feel like your post has just given me the No. 5 epiphany. Oh my goodness. I had honestly never considered that (that’s really bad, isn’t it?)… that’s so odd. Totally agree with you on everything. Useless expensive ignored toys are the bane of my life! #KCACOLS

    • 15th November 2015 / 12:12 pm

      Ha ha Tanya is spot on! x

  26. NewMummyBlog
    15th November 2015 / 8:46 am

    Great post and very true! We have so many toys and given H will be one in a few weeks, I dread to think how many we’ll accumulate by the end of the year, with it also being Christmas soon! The last ones a bit freaky…. Lol #thelist

    • 15th November 2015 / 9:04 am

      Ha we should open a toy shop! No more toys please! x

  27. 14th November 2015 / 5:32 pm

    Totally agree with Talya – especially #3…I can open a toy shop here! And my kids love keeping all their toys from when they were younger, so you can imagine the storage nightmare. And #5—you know what I’m thinking now?? You’ve gone and put those images in my mind.

    Great post – I really enjoyed reading this list.

    • 14th November 2015 / 8:30 pm

      I have to wait til my daughter goes to bed and sneak some toys away into ‘storage’ – sometimes I get away with it :) x

  28. Robyn
    14th November 2015 / 11:45 am

    Brilliant – no. 1 & 2 truly were epiphanies for me! I remember feeling more patient towards human-kind in general shortly after our new arrival, (re your no. 5), but that seems to have worn off to the point I forgot feeling that until you reminded me! My addition: what works today may not (probably won’t) work tomorrow!

    • 14th November 2015 / 4:42 pm

      Oh that’s such a good one, agree with your addition! I thought I’d cracked parenthood after my first baby – until the second came along and turned all my methods upside down :) x

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