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My Pregnancy Fears – Is Everything OK With My Pregnancy?

I’m 32 weeks pregnant tomorrow and the end is nigh! Which is great because I spend about 95% of my day complaining about my pregnancy symptoms and how massive I am.

At the same time though, there are so many thoughts swimming around my mind all day and, annoyingly, a lot of the night.

Pregnancy Fears - Love from Mim

I do remember feeling the ‘panic’ set in at around this time with my first pregnancy, I know it’s normal. That doesn’t turn it off though.

I thought I’d share some of my rational and, more likely, irrational pregnancy fears before the arrival of baby #2:

1.  Will the baby come early?

Miss M was born 3 weeks early. A couple of weeks early would be fine – the baby would be perfectly ready to come then. But any earlier and argh. I am NOT prepared.

2.  Will I be overdue?

I do not want to be overdue. Most people do not want to be overdue. I’m already bursting at the seams and complaining 24-7. Trust me, NO-ONE wants me to be overdue. But what if I am? I’m finishing work a week before my due date and I don’t want to waste my precious maternity leave sitting on my (expanding) bottom at home doing nothing but eat biscuits.

3.  Will I literally burst at the seams?

I don’t think there’s much ‘give’ left in there. It’s already feeling quite snug and let me tell you there is certainly no more room North (ribs) or South (pelvis) so unless this baby fancies dangling it’s head out for the next couple of months, I hope it doesn’t mind curling into a ball until it’s birthday.

4.  Do I want a hospital or home birth?

I am still undecided. The hospital birth would be midwife led like last time but I love the idea of having the baby in the comfort of my own home. I keep trying to speak to my midwife about my home birth options but she won’t even engage in the conversation until I’m 34 weeks. Not particularly helpful. She’s a bit of a B to be honest.

5.  Will I need stitches?

I did with my first birth but they were quick and pain free and I luckily had no issues afterwards. What about this time though? What if I end up with a 20lb baby? Will I make the global news? I digress.

6.  Will my bladder hold up?

Mini loves to use my bladder as a punch bag. I’ve been told by a few ladies that if you’re not affected by bladder issues with the first pregnancy, the second one will ‘get you’. Mental note: remember to do kegel exercises!

7.  Will I get stretchmarks?

I was lucky not to with my last pregnancy but since I spend 50% of my day now trying not to scratch my skin off, are they inevitable?

8.  Will I be able to lose the baby weight?

How much of the weight gain is the baby and how much is biscuits? Will the biscuit weight gain come out with the baby? Please?

9.  Will people still think I’m pregnant after?

Will I have a ‘bump’ forever? Will I actually have to diet and exercise? Will Spanx do the trick instead?

10.  What if I can’t have a hypnobirth this time?

Although she was premature, Miss M’s birth was almost everything I wanted it to be – very peaceful, comfortable and calm. I have only recently started practicing my breathing exercises but I need to ramp this up pronto and get in the right state of mind to make it work. I’m certainly not opposed to drugs during labour but if possible, I’d like to have a drug-free one again.

11.  How long can I afford to be off work on maternity leave?

I’d love a year. A lot of my friends had a year off. We can in no way afford a year so we’re going to try for 6 months. Unless we win the lottery.

12.  Is the baby ok?

At least 10 times a day I wonder whether it’s ok – is it moving enough? Is it distressed? Can it hear me? I’m not going to be happy until it’s out and I can see for myself that it’s all ok and happy.

13.  How will we get home from the hospital? We haven’t got a newborn car seat yet.  I need to get this sorted this month.

14.  Will my toddler like the new baby?

So far we’ve had a lot of ‘NO BABBY!’ when we’ve asked her if she’s excited to have a new sibling. Oh dear. We’ve resorted to every time we give her a new toy, item of clothing, anything, telling her it’s a present from the baby. The baby likes to gift yogurts especially but this seems to be going down well.

15.  Will we be able to have a social life afterwards?

Will we get any couple time? Will we ever get to go out at night together again without one of us staying in with the kids? In the past two years after Miss M arrived, we have hardly had any nights out and only one together. Even then, Mr M came home early as we didn’t want to leave her with a babysitter for too long. We love socialising and we want to go out. To karaoke. We want to go to karaoke! Ok, I want to go to karaoke. Ok, I’ll go on my own.

16.  What will be my first meal when I can eat what I want again?

Sushi? Brie? A runny egg? Ham? It’s a big decision! Note: it won’t be ham.

17.  Will the new baby be another Daddy’s Girl/Boy?

Surely that can’t both choose their Daddy first? Someone is going to have to play with Mummy.

18.  Will my feet return to their normal size post-pregnancy?

I’m not referring to water retention but the fact that during my last pregnancy they grew in size and a lot of my shoes no longer fit. Is that it now? Clown feet?

19.  Is this really my last pregnancy?

I’ve only ever really wanted two children and that’s still all I want. What about afterwards though, what are my options to ensure there are no unexpected additions to the family?

20.  Will I lose my hair post-pregnancy again?

I’m currently basking in the loveliness of thick, luscious locks but I do distinctly remember around the four month post-partum point last time my hair started falling out massively. Oh there’s just SO much to look forward to.

21.  Will the acid reflux magically disappear after the baby arrives?

Oh I do hope so as first thing in the morning and last thing at night it’s pretty unbearable.

22.  Will I be able to breastfeed?

I breastfed Miss M for seven months and I would be delighted to be able to do the same with Mini. It was a real struggle though for the first 2-3 months as I had a low supply. Will I be more relaxed this time? I hope so.

23.  Is Mini a girl or a boy?

We’re still pretty convinced it’s a girl, as is my mum. My Dad thinks boy, just to be different.

24.  What on Earth do you do with a baby boy?

I have very limited experience of boy babies. I am aware of their potential to pee on you during nappy changes. I know nothing else. I mean, it must be quite different to raising a little girl? Or is it? I have no “boy” things. I’d need to buy a whole new boy baby wardrobe. Argh.

25.  Will the baby sleep well?

Or will it only nap for 20-40 minutes like Miss M did? I’ll be employing every last baby sleep tip I can remember!

26.  Will I ever sleep again?

What with pregnancy discomfort and my usual insomnia issues, adding a sleepless newborn on top of that is not going to help much. I can’t remember the last time I got into bed, rolled over and slept ALL night. Perhaps I need white noise and a swaddle myself.

27.  Will this horrible pelvic pain disappear after the baby arrives?

Oh I hope so.

28.  Who will shave my legs for the next two months?

Yes, I’m at that point. I just can’t reach, it’s impossible. I’m going to have to ask my husband. Mortifying. And to be honest I’m not sure I trust him to do a good job!

29.  When am I going to be able to drink again?

I haven’t had drop of alcohol for eight months and I’ll be honest, I do miss it. Nothing beats a (large) glass of red wine on a wintery evening. With breastfeeding it could literally be another 6-9 months before I can have a drink again! Ok, I’m sounding like a lush now, I’ll stop.

30.  What if there are two in there?

There can’t be, can there? I certainly don’t feel like there are two and as big as I am, I’m not huge. But what if I end up being one of those random cases where one was hiding behind the other during the scans?

31.  Where will I be when I go into labour?

At home? Work? Will I be near enough to home/hospital so I don’t end up giving birth in a taxi or my husband’s car?

32.  How long will labour last?

My labour was medically sped up with Miss M as I lost a lot of blood so it was only a few hours. What about this time though? A lot of women have much fast labours second time around. I mean, the baby might come in an hour! Or three days – oh I hate the unknown.

So they are my pregnancy fears! Well, just a couple of them.

If you’re pregnant, what are/were your pregnancy fears?



  1. Amelia
    / 10:01 pm

    Wow, great one! it is a LOT of stress going around your head, god bless you. I remember mine so well. I was in a constant state of fear and like you have well said, it is only natural and I think writing it down like this is probably very therapeutic as it’s now out of your head and on the paper – keep doing it I say. Any panicky feelings, jot them down and hopefully you can leave them in the journal. haha.

  2. / 2:05 pm

    I think these things are common to worry about and I know I certainly fretted the same way throughout each pregnancy. I hope it all falls into place for you, I’m sure it will xx x

    • / 10:08 pm

      Oh thank you so much :) Writing it all definitely helped a bit :)

  3. Becster
    / 9:14 pm

    I can say that all of these thoughts are completely rational! I was all for homebirth first time around but because I was overdue they wouldn’t allow it. The midwife team I had here were all for a homebirth – hopefully your team will be just as supportive. Ask them!

    I hope you won’t lose your hair post pregnancy as I can sympathise! My hair is fantastic at the moment but after my first, I lost it all again! And my alopecia patches came back. They’re completely cured at the moment though!

    • / 10:08 pm

      Oh thank you! I’m dreading the hair loss – I know it’s inevitable booooo :(

  4. Rachel Hirst (Umeandthekids)
    / 3:35 pm

    Wow, I really didn’t think anyone could worry as much as I did!
    ‘I wooried about everything including ‘could I love this baby as much as my first’, what if any thing happend to me or the baby ect ect ect. I used to rush to the hospital all the time when I couldn’t feel movements.
    I think it is normal to have all these worries.
    I am sure the next few weeks will go smoothly!

    Come over from the #Share with Me Linky

    • / 10:07 pm

      Ha I’m glad I’m not alone :) Thanks so much Rachel! :)

  5. John Adams
    / 12:21 pm

    Very best of luck with the final few weeks. I know my wife was full of very similar questions. #BrilliantBlogPosts

    • / 10:06 pm

      Thanks so much John! :)

  6. jenny
    / 11:44 am

    Before we have babies I think we all go through these rational and irrational thoughts, fears and worries. It’s what makes us great parents in the end because we care so much. Lovely post. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme

    • / 10:06 pm

      Thanks so much Jenny! :)

  7. hannah mum's days
    / 2:09 pm

    Wow, that is a LOT of stress going around your head, bless you. I remember it so well and was in a permanent state of anxiety! Like you say, it is only natural and I think writing it down like this is probably very therapeutic as it’s now out of your head and on the paper – keep doing it I say. Any panicky feelings, jot them down and hopefully you can leave them in the book! xxx Thanks for linking xxx


    • / 10:06 pm

      It’s also on repeat – it’s constant ha argh! It really did help to write it all down though :) :)

  8. Anna Robinson
    / 12:46 pm

    Oh I love this post! So many worries that I share with you, especially 21, 24 and 30! I feel huuuge and often wonder if there is somehow 2 in there!!
    Anna (heading over from the #TwinklyTuesday linky

    • / 10:05 pm

      Ha ha thanks Anna – I’m glad I’m not alone! :)

  9. Mumma McD
    / 5:46 am

    Oh Mim, thank you, I’ve been feeling quite clucky lately as the memory of pregnancy had faded from my mind… this list brought it all back! This shop is shut!

    • / 10:05 pm

      Ha ha my work here is done then! Trust me, after this one my shop is also shut! :)

  10. Lisa (mummascribbles)
    / 9:36 pm

    This is a brilliant post – I don’t remember thinking quite like this with Zach but I had nothing to compare it too. I can only imagine that I’d be thinking exactly the same as you if I was doing it again!! Thanks for linking up with #twinklytuesday

    • / 10:04 pm

      Oh thanks lady :) I’m slowing working my way through them, not being so fearful ha! :)

  11. Louise
    / 2:29 pm

    Oh I remember so many similar thoughts swimming around in my head. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy – I had a home birth with my second and it was a wonderful experience. It was so lovely to be able to snuggle up in my own bed afterwards with my newborn and my toddler and not have to go anywhere. I was worried about my toddler adjusting but she coped with it all really well – hopefully yours will too #RetroBlogPosts

    • / 10:03 pm

      It’s so tough isn’t it – and doesn’t make for a good night’s sleep ha! Oh how wonderful that you had a homebirth!! Have you blogged about it?

  12. Spidermummy
    / 9:41 am

    Aww hun bless you, you took me back instantly to that bursting at the seams feeling, it’s horrid isn’t it – and then you just feel guilty for feeling like that! With the Midwife hat on, please do email me about the homebirth bit though, it’s good to know your options x

    • / 10:02 pm

      And I’m only getting bigger ha ha! I’m going to message you – thank you so much lady :) :)

  13. Sophie Lovett
    / 3:20 pm

    Ah I can identify with so many of these worries from my first pregnancy – and I’m already starting to panic about some of them again even though we’re just at the stage of thinking about trying for a second! I had a home birth first time round and was so happy I did. We were planning on a midwife unit which I’m sure would have been great too, but in the last couple of weeks I got a real urge to have the baby at home. It was wonderful to be completely away from the hospital atmosphere and have absolutely dedicated and focused care from the midwife throughout my labour – with a second arriving as well for the actual birth. I’ll definitely go for a home birth again if we have another. Good luck! x

    • / 9:37 pm

      Thanks Sophie! That’s brilliant you had a home birth, I love hearing good home birth stories – we’re definitely leaning that way too :)

  14. When the Dust Settles
    / 8:33 am

    I think these are all natural fears :) well they seemed to be similar ones my partner went through. I’m sure ll will be fine for you. (Oh and go for the runny egg for your first meal)

    • / 9:37 pm

      Ha thank you! Oooh I would love a runny egg right now :)

  15. You Baby Me Mummy
    / 10:27 pm

    I was convinced Baby would be late, in the end she was induced the day before her due date and born on her due date! I hope everything is on time for you! x

    • / 9:36 pm

      Thanks Aby! It’s funny how you just have to go with the flow at the end, what will be will be :)

  16. Julia @ rainbeaubelle
    / 9:13 pm

    That is some list, it’s such a scary time though and it’s natural to feel anxious towards the end of the prognancy isn’t it. I worried about a lot of those things too, there are a lot of unknowns and it is a massive life event that you’re about to go though! I’m sure your youngest will be just fine when sibling arrives. can’t wait for the big day!! Thanks for linking to #sundaystars

    • / 9:35 pm

      Ha yes Julia – I could have added more I think oops! Thanks so much! :)

  17. Katy {What Katy Said}
    / 9:28 pm

    What a list! I can remember those last few weeks, your mind is just buzzing. I almost had a homebirth but in the end it was taken out of my hands as I needed to be induced. My advice would be to definitely have a pool if you are going to do it at home, no way I would have coped without the aid of water. Second, I was overdue and they said it was because I was worried about leaving my oldest. My advice? Have a trial run of the procedure of what will happen when you go into labour- that way you know what will happen and wont worry- hopefully this will mean baby wont stay in too long :-) x #SundayStars

    • / 9:35 pm

      Oh yes, what I’d give for a clear mind :) Thanks lady – hoping to sort a birth pool this week and you’re right, we definitely need to have a trial run of whatever plan we decide on :) :)

  18. Louise @ Birds and Lilies
    / 6:24 pm

    Haha, great post! Ahh I am sooo broody, but you’ve done quite a good job of making me not quite so! That’s really frustrating that your midwife won’t have that conversation yet – of course you want to get everything sorted out and straight in your head. I am pretty sure you won’t have a twenty pound baby or burst at the seams so try not to worry! ;) xx #weekendbloghop

    • / 9:34 pm

      Ha ha my work here is done :) Tee hee watch this space to see if I BURST! :)

  19. Single Mother Ahoy
    / 5:10 pm

    omg, what a list!
    re your midwife refusing to even have the conversation about homebirth etc until 34 weeks, I found that infuriating too – I had loads of questions and she just kept telling me to wait til we made the appointment to make the birth plan. As it was, S came about 3 days BEFORE the bloody appointment to write a birth plan!
    I know you’ve been told it a gazillion times before, but worrying about it will drive you bonkers. Try not to panic!
    Thanks for linking up with #WeekendBlogHop!

    • / 9:33 pm

      Ha ha yes, I could have added more I think! It IS infuriating, this mama wants to plan, at least a little bit. :)

  20. Tin Box Traveller
    / 10:01 pm

    Oh no! Try not to worry too much – unless it’s about the serious stuff like leg shaving ;) However, I’m with you on stitches, weight loss after baby, sleep, and how’s the toddler going to react. I’d really like a crystal ball to see how those things work out, just so I can prepare! #thelist

    • / 9:33 pm

      Thanks lady :) I want that crystal ball tooooo :)

  21. Laura @ Life with Baby Kicks
    / 3:14 pm

    Hello bump twin :)

    Oh so many fears, you’ve highlighted a few of mine. C-Section or natural. Baby needs to arrive before due date. Will this baby be a boy or girl? If its a boy will we go again?!

    Though my favourite thing I read about reducing labour last time was a glass of red wine in the bath…..why thank you doctor!!!!!

    • / 9:32 pm

      Hello again bump buddy!! A glass of wine? That sounds amazing!!! I think labour would be a lot more fun with wine involved :)

  22. Sammy From Mamma With Love
    / 2:08 pm

    Fab post!,I remember thinking most of these when I was pregnant x

  23. Lindsay @ Newcastle Family Life
    / 1:37 pm

    haha love this! i had half of those worry’s when i was pregnant too. In regards to no 6 i am sure your bladder will hold up as i have had three and my bladder is just fine and the same as pre children. And each of my labours have been quicker 1st was 4 & a half hours, 2nd 4 hours and 3rd 40 minutes . Enjoy the last few weeks with a bump xx #TheList

    • / 9:31 pm

      Oh that makes me feel so much better, thank you! Wow-wee 40 minutes for your last labour – did you have a home birth? :)

  24. / 12:17 pm

    Brilliant post! I’m 33 weeks pregnant and on my 2nd baby too and I echo pretty much most of those! Argh the unknown and yep I’m also very unprepared this time round!

    Helen X

    • / 9:31 pm

      Thanks Helen! Hope you’re feeling well :)

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